Tips & Advice

Putting Yourself First

ShawandaVista (175 of 217).jpg

For those that follow me on Instagram, you’ll know that I recently posted a photo about for the first time in a long time I’m focusing on myself and no one else. Continue reading to find out what exactly I’m talking about.

We’ve all been there where we are supportive of our friends/family/significant other and then we insert or consume ourselves with what they have going on, then we forget about what we need to be doing for ourselves. My light bulb moment came one night as I was preparing for bed and looked in the mirror and didn’t know who the person looking back at me was. It was in that moment that I decided to focus on me all the things that I have going on – not just go through the motions of doing it but doing it with purpose.

These are some things that I have decided to do to return the focus to myself.


I battle with thoughts of being good enough and a lot of that comes from comparing myself and what I’m doing to what my peers are doing and this happens when scrolling through social media. I decided to only check social media twice a day, not when I first wake up, but around lunch time and then again after dinner. I don’t want what I see on social media to be the first thing I see in the mornings or the last thing before going to bed…it sticks with you all day and night.


It’s no secret that physical growth is a continuous goal of mine. I’ve committed myself to doing at least three days of working out. Sitting around being unproductive and complaining about how I look and feel gets you no where. The first few days will be difficult, but once the results start showing then you will know that you are on the right path. For me, now when I don’t get a chance to go I feel disappointed in myself and make it a point to get to the gym.


Give yourself a day to enjoy what you want to do, if not an entire day take a couple of hours. In that time period meditate or take a walk around the block, play with your pet – something that will have you stay calm and refocus.


To focus on ourselves sometimes it requires that we say no. It may be hard at first and you will feel awful about saying it, but you are doing this for you so you can make sure you are in a good place. You will be no good to anyone if you are taking care of yourself FIRST.

Focusing on yourself and your needs is going to make you feel so much better everyday. You can still be supportive and a listening ear for your friends. Give them some positive advice and hope that they take it, and you go do what you need to do for yourself.

By no means will this process be easy and smooth sailing. There will be days where you will be mad at yourself and just want to give up. Keep focus on the end goal and understand that each step is a stepping stone closer to what your goal is or you ultimately being satisfied with yourself.


Focus on loving yourself, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.

2018 signature

6 thoughts on “Putting Yourself First

  1. I agree with all of this. Me time, is really important. If you don’t focus on yourself, I feel like you just get carried away by other people opinion about what your life should be.



Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s